A Wife

It was just a random chat about a random topic with a male friend whom I had known for about 4 years.

He was mentioning that after knowing me for so long, he still doesn't know what I like to do for leisure. So I replied I do read, usually on girly stuffs. He said girly stuffs reminded him of cooking and sewing (my girly stuff actually meant beauty tips and fashion), so I casually told him that I do know how to cook and sew, although they aren't really my hobbies.

"Wah, you know how to cook ah? Then you make a good wife leh!" He typed back.

Excuse me, I can't help but feel a little dignified, why must a good wife knows how to cook and not husband? I was quite appalled that he had such primitive thoughts, I always assumed he was those modern guys, who will tell their gf/wife: Dunno how to cook/wash/iron nvm, we get a maid lor!

I'm not trying to promote feminism, but then, if one can cook makes a good housewife, is that why all the adultery with the maids happening? Then what makes a good husband? Bring home the bacon?

As we debated on the issue, I further probed him what makes a cooking wife such a big turn on for him (Yeah, it turned him on, heat up the stove babes!). Was it because it kinda make him proud to have a wife who knows how to cook, compare to someone's wife who doesn't. He nodded.

"So, your potential future wife must know how to cook?" I retorted.

"Not a must, but good to know." He replied. Hmm, so in so, still must know how to cook lor, and must be part of his package, which I think is Beauty + ___ Skills (Fill in the blank yourselves.), cooking is a bonus.

I dunno if I will ever cook for my future potential just because he loves it, but I do hope that future potential will learn how to cook for me though. However, most of the time, it is the women who pampered and stroke up the men's ago leh. I think men will only cook during the pursue process. I've seen many cases where my female friends who can't even fry an egg, went to learn cooking just to shower love on her boyfriend, because he likes to eat this. Just too many cases which kinda put me off at times. What did the bf do to shower her with love other than empty promises and fading flowers?

Oh god, I sounded so much like a spiteful spinster once again.

Can't help but to mention it once again childishly: As much as I heard so many compliments about my cooking skills (er hem, the baked potato lor), cleaning skills (I am damn proud my obsessive cleaning and organization skills), and being praised by a guy that I makes a good wife who can cook(roll eyes), where is The One?

Bloody hell. I think I know why.