喜欢一个人就想占有他，爱一个人不需要拥有他

I can't remember where I heard this from. This was a sentence I threw at Someone when she was whining to me about her really screwed-up relationship with this guy she crushed hugely on. It was an unrequited one-sided love, though I didn't really think it was love and hence I told her that she just like him, not love him.

Anyway, it is a very subjective phrase since everybody thinks differently.

The first half of the sentence was said by Rain (I think) in the Korean Drama "Full House" and I excitedly exclaimed to Jia that I said something similar, and I told her what I said to Someone. And recently, Jia asked me again what was this phrase I said. Apparently, she msned it to her friend who was in a rather shitty relationship (I said shitty coz that guy is very sticky to the girl).

I'm not a love guru, not very expert in relationships since my pasts are countable using one hand or less. However, ever since secondary school till now, my friends always turned to me when they encountered relationship problems. Probably because 旁观者清, I was able to analyse the problem in a much clearer thoughts than them. Therefore, more or less, I was able to conclude some things out of people's experience.

So far, none of my friends had actually encountered the level where they have to let somebody go because of love. So indeed, the phrase "喜欢一个人就想占有他，爱一个人不需要拥有他" is a level where the situation requires a lot of generosity and 舍不得。

Personally, I love this phrase a lot, enough though it was not originally created by me, still, able to form the sentence out of blur memory and conjure up such an artsy-fartsy phrase is not something that I can do it everyday. So I happily put it on my MSN.

As I said earlier, this phrase is very subjective and I'm not a love guru, so take this phrase as food of thought. However, the world is very ugly with people who always think they are correct. Right after I posted the phrase, Mr. Big Ego msned me the following which I couldn't be bothered to reply coz his ego is too big to see any reasoning.

J Sim: your theory wrong la
J Sim: when you like somebody, you don't mind to share with others
J Sim: when you love somebody, you mind to share with others

I didn't say even this theory is correct lor, hor? It is just a theory of mine. Stupid people just don't think. Obviously, the phrase is too profound for him to understand also. 哼哼，没墨水就是没墨水，还要假厉害。If he wants to prove my theory is wrong, he should have wrote something that I would be convinced. The way he puts his theory across, sounds so crude lor, what you mind, you don't mind de. Is like kids saying "I dun fren you anymore". 哼! Here's a guy who think he knows everything about love and everything about women because one past relationship with a PRC and supposedly an air hostess.

Sorry, I want to say things about Mr. Big Ego, and I am not backstabbing.

He haolian that his EX-GF is an air-hostess.
He is damn proud that he was in a relationship before.
He thinks that since he was wooed by girls before so his quality is still not bad.

Whenever he haolian about such stuffs, I feel like puking in his face. No, don't even have to hear him haolian, see him already can puke a few thousand times.

Please lah, he's not good looking, he's fat, and he's damn proud. The below average would not even want him as boyfriend, and he still think he's in the creme of the crop? To put it honestly in a hurtful manner, who knows what his ex PRC gf wanted out of him, right? I'm not stereotyping PRC ladies, but you know, for a person like him, I seriously didn't see any boyfriend quality in him!

Alright, maybe that girl likes the chauvinist pig in him lah.

Pui!